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<\/p>\nToday was hard. We attended the\u00a0funeral of my cousin Bill and Debra’s son Alan. Alan was only 25<\/p>\n
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The service was at Ohavi Zedik in Burlington. That place was packed with friends and family. We heard from family. friends and \u00a0teachers what an amazing kid Alan was. He was musical, athletic and academically gifted. \u00a0Compassionate, dedicated.. politically aware .. and funny in a serous way.. A lot like his dad.\u00a0We heard from Alan’s grandparents Sandy and Ruth about playing musical improv with Alan and about the stack of books he always borrowed on his visits. We heard great stories from his sister Clara about all she learned sharing a bathroom with Alan. We heard from his music professor at Dartmouth how Alan could make his Sax sing.. \u00a0and from his friends about his confessions of being a Libertarian\u00a0. As much as I loved the stories and the music, there was no avoiding the pain of being there.. and seeing Alan’s\u00a0\u00a0family in their grief. Even though we’ve walked this same hard, hard path, I don’t pretend to know hat they were going through.. One thing I’ve learned through Sam’s death is that everyone has to do their own grieving.. no ones path is the same.<\/p>\n
After the service we all went to the cemetery.. We watched as Alan’s plain\u00a0\u00a0pine coffin was lowered into the\u00a0\u00a0ground.. Then we all helped cover it with earth. It was so hard to be there.. my heart was breaking.. everyone’s was..<\/p>\n
After saying\u00a0\u00a0Kaddish we\u00a0\u00a0left the cemetery\u00a0 and headed back to Bill and Debra’s … we were all\u00a0\u00a0pretty numb.. Several family members from my Dad’s side of the family were there.. My cuisine John and his wife Jean. My cousins Suzie and her daughter Katie and my great aunt Ellen. I t was so good\u00a0\u00a0having them there … We brought them out to our\u00a0house for a short visit \u00a0which felt good.<\/p>\n
now i’m sitting here thinking of Alan wishing him peace and his family strength. They have a lot of love around them.. I know how important that is<\/p>\n
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nite all, nite sam<\/p>\n
-me<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Today was hard. We attended the\u00a0funeral of my cousin Bill and Debra’s son Alan. Alan was only 25 The service was at Ohavi Zedik in Burlington. That place was packed with friends and family. We heard from family. friends and \u00a0teachers what an amazing kid Alan was. He was musical, athletic and academically gifted. \u00a0Compassionate, … Continue reading Friday night – Alan<\/span>