Greetings from Somers NY. I spent the day at IBM Headquarters trying to jungle too many things. My day got off to a strange start when I realized that the only footwear I had with me was my Birkenstocks.. It s pretty typical of the lapses in mindfulness  that I find my self making all the time now. I was thinking that I would look pretty snazzy with my slacks and sport coat and sandals.. I was about to go into my meeting when I realized that my real shoes were in a separate bag  in the car..  One embarrassment avoided…

 

This morning I attended a conference for new-ish employees.. I say new-ish because thaty all had somewhere between 0 and 10 years of service. There were some  good kick off  talks including ones from My bosses boss.. and my friend Kerrie from Ca.   I co-lead a panel on patents and IP.. It went well enough.. not great.. but lots of questions and a few laughs.

Me in the IBM Learning Cneter Cafeteria

I spent the afternoon bouncing back and forth between day-job meetings and some early ramp up on my rotational assignment.  I met with my buddy Tim-from-Texas about a video project that we’re planning on doing. He’s going to be really fun to work with. I also met with the outreach team.  I really like  the folks I’m going to be working with.

Friends Nora, Eric and Grace

I’m also  starting to get a better idea of what I’ll be able to do for them. I’m nervous and excited about the new challenge.. I guess you’ll all follow me on that journey.. again.. I plan to transition at the beginning of Nov.

 

My day job meetings ran until about 7… I grabbed a quick snack with my friend Jeff from Minnesota who was in for the same early tenure conference.. then I headed out to Ruchir and Rashi’s

 

I got here about 8:30 . I’d been feeling so blue all day.. (Big Blue !)..   Ruchir gave me a big hug when I walked in the door and that made me realize that that was what I’d been needing all day. It feels like a home away from home here.

 

The two kids, Isha(7) and Anika (nearly 3) were sitting at the table ready to eat. Rashi was making fresh pratha it smelled, looked  and tasted wonderful as usual.    We had lotus bean curry, dahl , pratha, potato broccoli curry ,and  fresh mint/coriander chutney .. What’s more they had some really good hot mango and lime pickle.. Even the though of that makes my mouth water

 Yumm !

After A nice leisurely dinner.. I goofed around with the kids.. we read some books, played with my glasses.. and took these  flattering portraits. 

 Isha in my glasses

Anika trys them on too

Ooop.. It’s late again.. I have an early day tomorrow.. so I’ll end here..

 

Subha ratri (good night)  everyone . Subha ratri Sam

 

-me

 ps. Gabe just posted this awsome cork 720 form me.. Check this out

 

Today was Yom Kippur and I spent it quietly here at home. I decided not to go to shul (temple) . Last night and last week were fine.. but I felt better about being by myself. I did do the traditional Fast from last night. The idea of the fast is to clear you mind of worldly things. So you can concentrate on more spiritual things… like how hungry you are. I’ve fasted every Yom Kippur since I was little.. but I never remember it being as easy as today. I’ve really no been eating that much the last month or so anyway.. I usually get pretty light headed, spacey and cranky after about 4 hours without food.. today I barely felt it. I think I know have such a different scale of pain that this didn’t even register. I guess that’s a good thing…

 

Not much else really happened today… Gabe and his friends hd camped out on the tramp.. again.. I think they got pretty wet from the dew.. but they slept late enough that the sun dried them before they woke. 

Gabe got out the spray cans again and ended up being the boy with the golden toe.

 
 

Around 4ish Diane and I took a short walk.. As we were coming back to the house, we saw Gabe and a bunch of kids coming down the road towards us. From the that distance it was hard to tell that Sam wasn’t with them. It’s kind of nice when that happens.

 

Around 7 a bunch of friends came over to help us replenish the SamStones stock. We move through them so quickly now. Check out the SamStones.Org map to see the large number of Stones getting out there.. Jen estimates we’re over 2000.  I get many  notes of them being placed and/or found every day now.

 

A picture Avery had that Sam gave to her

As folks started to disperse tonight, a few of us started watching an amazing thing on YouTube. All this week I’d heard of a moving ‘Last Lecture’ which was given last week by Prof. Randy Paush a 46 year old professor at Carnegie Mellon University (CMU) where I did my grad work. Randy is a pioneer in Virtual Reality and is the creator of Alice.. the game authoring tool used by many universities including my buddies Anne and Hpe’s program at Champlain. Randy’s been diagnosed with an advanced and  incurable form of pancreatic cancer. Evidently he has only a few weeks left to live. / He chose to give one last university lecture on ‘Achieving your dreams’ . I’ve received 6 emails from friends with links to videos of the lecture. It was covered in the Wall Street Journal. SlashDot, ComputerWorld. The CMU press. Etc. I found the lectures on YouTube   During the hour, Randy talks about growing u. his parents, his mentors and his students and his work. I was interested  in the latter  because Randy’s been a pioneer in the use of gaming and virtual world technology for education.. which is the field I’m entering for my sabbatical. He has some great observations on making your dreams come true. I found it really inspirational.. and one of the most amazing examples of grace under pressure I’ve seen . It’s really worth watching if you have the time..

 

Here’s an edited version of the highlights of the talk.

 

 

 

Here are the links to the unedited segments on YouTube.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4HqdnjgkExY

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n_5cTuXrpNI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-PYIAbIlQ8o

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J18CnoQbizA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BC-v8A2_biM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BhHNBqm8xtE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8azl1hqUaM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q_VcjTG4xh4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V5H5R2hC45o

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZnD7i9XHL7k

 

OK.. Now time to sleep. I’m leaving early tomorrow to go down and see Max.. I’ll report more from down there.

 

Goodnight all. Goodnight Sam

-me

Tonight is Erev Yom Kippur, The beginning of the day of Atonement.. the holiest time of the year for Jews. It’s also 10 months today since Sam’s death.

I went  to services at UVM tonight with my friend Jake. .. There’s a small group of about 50 Jews who meet there on the High Holy days Yom Kippur is when you’re supposed ot be sealed in the Book of Life for the coming year.. There’s a lot of focus on those who have died in the previous year. I thought it was going to be hard for me to go through that.. I held Sam’s picture as we went through the Mourner’s Kaddish.. the prayer for the dead.. . I’ve been thinking abut this night for nearly all of the past 10 months. It was a hard.. but not nearly so hard as I imagined.   As always the things you expect are not the hardest.

Yom Kippur is the day when you reflect on all the things you fell short on in the past year… You’re supposed to think of  all the people you wronged, all the  promises to yourself you failed to keep, all the folks you let down. Then you’re supposed to  ask for forgiveness.. whether it be from G-d.. the folks you wronged. or even yourself. . If you know any Jewish people, it’s not unusual for them to come looking for you around this time of year an apologize for something they did.. or did not do in the past year.   So… let me take this opportunity to apologize to any one of you that I may have done wrong to this past year.. I know that I haven’t been at my best these past 10 months.

We recite a prayer called Kol Nidre (Hebrew: ?? ????)  which is actually in Arameic.. though written in Hebrew transliteration.. It calls for all vows you made in the past year to be annulled.  Translated it goes

All personal vows we are likely to make, all personal oaths and pledges we are likely to take between this Yom Kippur and the next Yom Kippur, we publicly renounce. Let them all be relinquished and abandoned, null and void, neither firm nor established. Let our personal vows, pledges and oaths be considered neither vows nor pledges nor oaths.

It’s a great purging ritual.. it also has always struck me as something of a cosmic cop out. I do love the music  though

I really love all the music in the service. After 48 years they worn into my brain… even with my wobbly Hebrew the melody and the words are a comfort to me.. even If the specific metaphysics.. e.g. . A G-d ‘up there’ and me down here.. isn’t what I believe at all.  One of my favorites is the Alvinu Malchenu.. ‘Our Father our King’ (though now all reform services are supposed to be  gender neutral). My favorite version   of that one has got to be the one from  our homegrown brethren from Phish

Tonight’s service was lead by a nice young guy from Boston who’s studying to be a Rabbi. He brought some supplemental readings we used.. which included some great poems by Shel Silverstein (I once sat next to him in a plane for 3 hours !) ..   The readings also included this poem from Merrit Malloy. It really made me think of Sam

 EPITAPH

When I die
Give what’s left of me away
To children
And old men that wait to die
And if you need to cry
Cry for your brother
Walking the street beside you
And when you need me
Put your arms
Around anyone
And give them
What you need to give to me
I want to leave you something
Something better
Than words
Or sounds
Look for me
In the people I’ve known
Or loved
And if you cannot give me away
At least let me live on your eyes
And not on your mind
You can love me most
By letting
Hands touch hands
By letting
Bodies touch bodies
And by letting go
Of children
That need to be free
Love doesn’t die
People do
So, when all that’s left of me
Is love
Give me away

 

Shana Tova (good new year) my family and friends

Shana Tova Sam

-me

Worked at home again on this beautiful day. I found myself much more lighthearted and productive than I have been in nearly a month.. A combination of getting stuff done and the upcoming change in work focus. I love working in the house and being able to see Diane and Chai .. and after 3, Gabe,  go about their day. I can also understand how I get in the way. I’m always on the phone so I’m constantly running around to find a quiet place to work…  It’s nice though…

Today I was thinking about Mason, Tyler, Rusty and Alex who started their big adventure today backpacking around Europe. They don’t have any particular plan, just Eurail passes and a few bucks to tide them over. They left Boston last night

And landed in Dublin about 5:30 this morning.

>

> Hello all

> we arrive this morning in dublin at 530.  we baught an unlimited bus pass

> for the next three days and then set off to find accomadations.  we found

> what we needed at 13 euro a night. we will be off to london on the 22nd so

> lets see how that goes.

> all is well

> love

> mason, rusty, tyler and alex

>

I keep thinking about that moment when you walk out of the airport/train station/bus station and say to yourself ‘now what’ ? I loved doing that as a kid.. and I guess I still love doing it. You end up really learning so much about yourself and your travel companions when you are traveling that loose.. They’ll come back with stories that will scare their folks and entertain their grandkids . If you’re reading this and Europe and have a spare bedroom, let me know and I’ll send you 4 nice kids.

I was thinking about my own kids a bunch today.. As I started to prepare for a strategy discussion at work, I came across on of the  mind-map diagrams I made about my life last year.. It has everything from personal relationships to finances in it.

I looked at the things I intended to do with my kids. Sometimes I have to stop and think what kid of a Dad I’ve been.. .. with all my kids.. and of course, with Sam.. it’s different. All in all I felt pretty good looking at the list.. though we never built that hovercraft, Sam.. I hope that’s OK.. It has to be

I love you guys.. love you Sam

-me