On our way home from sherborn… Had a good visit down there with family.. Began today with pancakes !

After some organized chaos, we all ended up at hale reservation,, a beutiful beachy place in suburban boston

We got back to my moms around 6 pm. Just enough time to head to Seabrook nH for the annual summer get together for Fathers Forever. FF is a group that i was very sad to join. Everyone of us has had a child of ours die. I joined the group after Sam died. My freind Craig reached out to me and invited me in, the group has been meeting for more than 10 years in boston. They get together once a month or so for breakfast..

Once a year they get together at the beach.. And today was that day

I met up with the guys at Browns Lobster Pot in Seabrook NH. They had mostly finished dinenr, but i was able to eat their remaining onion rings..Beleive it or not.. The ocnver sat ion was mostly light and fun,. The common expereince lets us say anything,,

We talked for about an hour about .. Our kids living and dead, our families, burials, writings, and overall how we were doing.

There were dads there who lost a child wihin the last year.. And others who were 25 years past,,it didnt matter where we were from, what had happened.. We were all bound by this very hard. Common cirmcumstance,, we say its the club with the highest dues…

O was so happy to have made it there !

I found this post from 2008 which is the last time i attended the FF summer meet up. Give it a read and see the amazing story of the exploding wineglass

http://johncohn.org/base/2008/05/03/friday-night-stop-and-smell-the-pine-tress/

We broke up around 9… And there was diane waiting for me out back under a street light with some fried scallops.. I love that woman !

Night all, night sam

-me

Day 4 down here.. Again didnt do much… Nice being with family ..trying hard how to remember how to do nothing

For dinner max and our friend sara offered to cook.. They did steaks, potatoes, cilantro rubbed corn and asparagus for the 19 of us..( well i dont eat steak.. So 18).. He did a really great job !

Too tired to write more

Nite all, nite sam

-me

Rainy day with 16 people in my moms house. Beleive it or not.. It was ok.. We all managed to have fun and recharge…

At least our devices were

Some cool science happened.. Jello worms, lava lught vinegar and baking soda

My friend charles came out to visit..

Then dinner with dads famous batchelor spagetti…

Only thing mossi g was dad..

Ellory made a cake.. And we put candles on it for dad. He would have been 85 this sat. We sang happy birthday.. And it felt actually sort of happy

Night all, nite sam

-me

Down at my moms with my family, my brothers family and my sisters family.. pleasant chaos .. 16 of us in all.. cousins  from age 5 to 27.. tons of eating and drinking, music, goofiness.

I picked up Max today around noon.. on the way home we stopped by MIT to see where they were tearing down my old dorm Bexley. Sure enough, it was just a hole in the ground. I managed to sneak inside a fence and through a samstone into the whole. I also grabbed a brick.. then had to run when one of the workmen started to run after me !

we also dropped in an saw are friend Elsa in Sommerville … she was doing great.

The only job for the day was to take pictures.. it was strange doing it without Dad .. and without sam of course… John L. had to leave this morning also.. but we were mostly there..

later on we pulled out the 70  foot plastic tarp and built a slip and slide.. dosed it with soap and slid..   good and dangerous fun !

then sushi and inappropriate tv !.. Nice end to the day

nite all, bite sam
-me