Friday night (delayed) – father’s breakfast

I was in Cambridge yesterday and it just happened to be the monthly meeting of the Fathers Forever group. Fathers Forever Is a group of guys all had a child who has died. I think getting together with them every so often every year since 2007. Members have come and gone… With the court group are now with old friends of mine. I Hadn’t been to one of these breakfast meetings In a very long time. This one was at friend Steve’s pottery studio in Needham

They were about 15 of us there… I didn’t feel it was right to take a picture of us all sitting around In a circle. But here’s where we were

Most of the meeting consisted of us just going around the circle introducing ourselves talking about our child and how we were doing. I was near the end of the circle. I have to admit it was pretty hard and painful listening to everyone’s stories. Many of them I already knew but they were still hard to hear.… And you are ones are the hardest for me. I don’t know how To explain it though as painful as it was to hear everyone’s stories… and about their kids Accidents, drug overdoses, suicides, illnesses…We also heard about how they themselves were doing and how their families were doing and what they were doing in honor of their child.It was overall very life affirming. Ultimately each thai story was about how they and their family are moving through life.I always come away from these meetings feeling uplifted somehow .…

I took advantage of being there to see my friend Steve’s pottery studio. I sent Jarrod died 10 years ago. Steve chose to mark his sensitive I making a Chawan A day for 365 days. They are simple clay balls… Made all of these and created an experience called a Fathers Kaddish https://thepottersshopandschool.yolasite.com/a-fathers-kaddish.php

Experience has been made into a movie which I will share when I get it