I was in Cambridge yesterday and it just happened to be the monthly meeting of the Fathers Forever group. Fathers Forever Is a group of guys all had a child who has died. I think getting together with them every so often every year since 2007. Members have come and gone… With the court group are now with old friends of mine. I Hadn’t been to one of these breakfast meetings In a very long time. This one was at friend Steve’s pottery studio in Needham

They were about 15 of us there… I didn’t feel it was right to take a picture of us all sitting around In a circle. But here’s where we were

Most of the meeting consisted of us just going around the circle introducing ourselves talking about our child and how we were doing. I was near the end of the circle. I have to admit it was pretty hard and painful listening to everyone’s stories. Many of them I already knew but they were still hard to hear.… And you are ones are the hardest for me. I don’t know how To explain it though as painful as it was to hear everyone’s stories… and about their kids Accidents, drug overdoses, suicides, illnesses…We also heard about how they themselves were doing and how their families were doing and what they were doing in honor of their child.It was overall very life affirming. Ultimately each thai story was about how they and their family are moving through life.I always come away from these meetings feeling uplifted somehow .…

I took advantage of being there to see my friend Steve’s pottery studio. I sent Jarrod died 10 years ago. Steve chose to mark his sensitive I making a Chawan A day for 365 days. They are simple clay balls… Made all of these and created an experience called a Fathers Kaddish https://thepottersshopandschool.yolasite.com/a-fathers-kaddish.php

Experience has been made into a movie which I will share when I get it

As I went to leave the meeting… I found a bunch of the guys still at the parking lot talking. That’s what it was all about

Drive home was uneventful… Got home in time to have a lovely dinner with her friend Kyle’s parents were staying with us for the night

OK… Ready to start a new day. More later

Nite all, nite sam

-me

It’s such a crazy time. Everyone I talk to today had some story of a major event they were planning on attending been canceled. Or some trip or other being delayed because of the world health crisis. It’s definitely scary… But it’s also kind of exciting… In the way that knowing a big snow storm is coming your way and that schools will be closed the next day is. You’re forced to hang out at home… You’re forced to give up your plans. It’s entropy taking over and erasing all your well honed plans.… I’m sure for many It’s incredibly aggravating… But for me… It’s just a reinforcement that we really are not in control of anything. We just think we are sometimes.

That’s what My old friend Jinfang and I talked about this morning at breakfast. As she offered me some hand sanitizer..



It will be the Most valuable currency in the New World order

Nite all, nite sam

-me

They say people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. What are they say about people who work in glass offices?… My friend Liisa was out of town so I chose to use her office the last couple of days while in Cambridge. Generally I don’t have a fixed office. In fact I haven’t had an office of my own since 2013 Since I’ve been something of a nomad.… To be honest I now have an office at UVM which is kind of cool.… But I digress.

I was thinking about what it’s like to sit in a fixed place where people can always find you. What’s interesting is that over the last two days people have been finding me. Quite a few of them actually. It’s been really fun because I’ve managed to have longer calmer conversations with more people in the last few days because I’m sitting somewhere visible. That’s so good thing is I don’t know how anyone gets anything done in a situation like that. Oh well… I think I’d rather talk to people then do anything anyway

Speaking of which… Had a very good early dinner with Hendrik and Johann tonight. Two nights in a row of sushi.

Nite all, nite sam

-me

Had a super busy day down here on super Tuesday. I was very sad to miss town meeting in Richmond. It’s something I really enjoy doing and haven’t missed in quite some time.… Instead today I was on a panel at a open cloud Sumit. The idea is to be able to make accelerated computing… Like Satori.. Available to more universities and other institutions.… It was a fun conference… And I learned a lot. The one thing I couldn’t help notice was everyone’s reaction to the coronavirus. Instead of shaking hands people bumped elbows. It was fun and kind of touching. In some ways it was actually a nice moment… Instead of doing something absentmindedly like shaking hands… They very consciously Bumped elbows. In doing that they shared a laugh and then a moment of concern. It was very touching… I also heard that Europeans had come up with something that instead of doing the two cheek kiss they tapped each other’s feet. With their own feet… I didn’t see it actually happened… So I’d like to know if anyone has seen that

My friend Chris and I took advantage of the warm and sunny weather to walk back to MIT from BU.… That took us by the Citgo sign which I used to be able to see from my dorm window

It also took us bye Chris his first home in Boston where he and his wife Helen lived before they started having kids

It was fun seeing the beautiful skyline as we walked across the Harvard bridge.… I noticed how close our new building is to campus

I’m watching the super Tuesday results on CNN… Very interesting to watch

Can’t wait to see the results…

nite all, nite sam

-me