Last night we had our winter fathers forever get together. Fathers forever is a group I belong to of dad’s who have had a child that has died.. It’s the worst possible reason to have a club… But I still love it. It’s so nice to be able to talk to people I’ve been down close to the same road…. It’s always hard when we have new arrivals… Last night we had Jaime. We spent a long time discussing what do you say to someone… “Glad you’re here”… Just doesn’t feel right. We settled on “welcome”… As always, it was great going around the room and hearing how people were doing. The holidays are generally a hard time for most people. So… A bird and share it as a burden lifted or something like that.

It does sound like something someone’s grandmother would say… I’m not sure it makes sense

It was very interesting to hear how all of us we’re doing with the pandemic. People with recent losses were really struggling because they didn’t have the comfort of family and friends but most of us had. I was taking though, how many of us were kind of enjoying the quiet time with our families.

Another thing we discussed was some of the other benefits of these social distance times… And though none of us are crazy about zoom meetings… It certainly made it nice that we could all get together including those of us who don’t live in Boston where the group is based

I hope that’s something we hang onto when things get back to normal…

But come to think of it… Nothing for this group ever gets back to “normal”.

Nite all, nite sam

-me

I’m so glad that I have these guys to rely on.…



For the last couple of years I’ve done this in person