Ahhh. home again.. It’s been a sad week.. but one full of lots of love from family and freinds. THansk to all who reached out to us aroudn my mother in law Marcia’s death…

We were just down there for a week.. and also the week before new years… so .. it feels good to be back in our own home.. fires going.. the small of dianes spicy thai drunken noodles .. dogs curled up by the fire..

that gives me some much needed time to do some useful work.. like this 

 

here’s a favorite picture of diane and her brothers steve and joe. 

here they are yesterday

 

and here they are today

now.. I feel that I have really accomplished something today !

nite all, nite sam

-me

We spent the day saying good bye to Diane’s mom Marcia.  It was a long,sweet day, the service and the people there were really nice.. people hung out and talked for a long, long time at every step.. no one was in a hurry to leave.. we all came away feeling both sad and good. 

 

 

Prep for the day was not so peaceful. We were due at the church for visiting at 10.. which meant a frantic blur of prep at the house. We couldn’t find an iron, so I had the bright (I thought) idea of hangign them in the bathroom to steam them.. somehow that ended with the door to the one  batrhoom soemhow locking itself witht he steaming clothes inside and all of us on the outside.  I franticaly searched the house for tools to open the door. Gabe.. my fater in law was a mechanical engineer and machinest and had every tool known to man.. except it seems a phillips head screw driver.   I finally found one phillips head after finding 12 slotted screw drivers and got the door open. 

 

THe hot water was gone by the time we broke in.. but the shirts were all wrinkle free ! Marcia woudl have thought it was pretty funny..

 

I felt Sam very present today.. He an Marcia were very close.. as were she and all her grandkids.. Gabe and Max told me that they used to call gamma to get clues on how to beat video games like Zelda that she always cracked faster than they did. 

 

we got to the church on time after-all. The place is well known to me now due to all the funerals I’ve been to there..a. It feels good to me to be there, 

 

 

we spent an hour talking to friends..

linda, david and Andrea

the ‘outlaws’ my sisters in law denise and pat

 

my boys

 

mason signs the book 

 

emma and her doll

 

steve dian and joe (see a great reshot of this below) 

 

all of us.. can you find me ? 

 

dianes uncles tom, rick and steve. Rick is only a year older than diane.. but is really her uncle !

 

I did an old testament reading (Isaiah 49:13-16a). Max did the pall laying. Max and Gabe and I were pall bearers.. 

We took Marcia out to the herse and jumped in our car.

 

My brother in law Joe just retired after 30 years as a police detective.. so we had lots of police there in uniforms.. including camo-ed swat officers. We were all set for the drive to the cemetery. They gave us a full escort.. and blocked roads for us when we turned. 

 

the cemetery where we took Marcia is the same place where big gabe, his mom and dad , his sister teresa, and brother armond are interred.. 

 

Diane’s dad had a military color guard at his funeral complete with rifle shots.

No guns for Marcia.. so Diane  had pulled a bunch of roses apart to place on the ground at the cemetery . 

it was a nice touch. 

 

there was a very short service inside the masuleam.. then we came back out into the bright sunshine. We found the place where Marcia was going  alog wotj bog gabe. 

I put a samstone on it. 

Wednesday evening - Saying goodbye to Marcia

 

fro there we headed to the ground round right down the street. they had a big room we could rent.  and it worked out great. We had about 35 oks.. and everyone stayed for hours. 

here’s pat’s family

marcias sisters and their husbands

 

marcjias brother rick and his wife sue

 

Marleane and steve’s kids 

 

 

max taught ua a new trick.. he made ice cream using ice, salt and small coffee half and half containers. 

it froze.. and then he added sugar. 

 

 

 

here are marlene and steve 

 

marcias syblings. marlene, rock, nacny and fran.. really nice folks . 

 

nancy and her son ernie. 

pat and joe 

 

sherri’s daughter and her husband 

 

steves family including elizabeth , chirs and her kids. 

 

diane rick and sue

 

becky, diane and steve T

 

my beutifule boys 

 

our close friend jen and deb drove down for the funeral.. and brought down pictures of Marcia and clothes for Gabe . They also took a bunch of stuff back up to Vermont for us. Those are great friends !

 

ahh.. remember this picture ? 

 

here’s a retake 50 soem odd years later !

 

nancy photo bombs them 

 

shere’s kids 

 

tiem to go.. more than 2 hours later 

 

diane and marlene 

 

finally home around 4.. our dogs were SO happy to see us.. I took them on a run which they really appreciated. .

 

got home to find a little more family going on.. 

now it’s about 8PM.. and diane, gabe and I are alone  and we’re exhausted…

 

it’s been a good/sad day.. 

 

I’ll really miss you Marcia.. you always made me feel welcome and part of this family.. Thanks for being such a generous and loving mother, mother in law and grandmother. 

you are much  loved and will always be in our hearts 

nite all,nite sam

-me

 

 

Greetings from a snowbank at the Syracuse airport. I’m up here waiting for Gabe’s plane to arrive from Jackson hole.

Both boys are in for Marcia’s funeral tomorrow. It will be nice being together even for such a sad event. More of Diane’s family Came in today… We have quite a houseful at Marcia’s . Lots of food lots of stories… It’s been pretty fun.

Today we went to the funeral place… Got to say goodbye to Marcia. It is so surreal to see someone that you knew and loved not moving like that. Somehow I think it helps. It makes it “real”…

There we went to Staples to copy the programs for the actual funeral tomorrow. It was so strange being in those two very different places within the space of a half an hour.

OK… Gabe’s plane is landing any minute. More tomorrow

– me

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Spent the day working in the basement of Marcia’s house .. while Diane and her brothers worked on arraignments  for Marcia’s  funeral on Wednesday. It was pretty surreal.   We chose readings, Diane chose flowers..  Joe and Steve handled logistics…

Marcia’s obit came out in the Binghamton Press and Sun today.

Marcia L. Mariano 1936 – 2018 
 
Marcia L. Mariano Obituary
Marcia L. Mariano

Endicott – Marcia Lou Fox Mariano, 81, has passed away peacefully on January 4, 2018 at her home in Endicott, New York. Marcia was born on October 7, 1936 in Chenango Bridge. Marcia was predeceased by her husband of 56 years, Gabriel Mariano, by her beloved grandson Samuel Mariano Cohn, by her granddaughter Susan Lynn Mariano, and by her parents Brainard A. Fox and Marjorie G. Fox. Marcia is survived by her children, Steven (Denise) Mariano of Leavenworth KS, Diane (John Cohn) Mariano of Richmond VT, Joseph (Patricia) Mariano of Endicott NY; grandchildren: Stephanie, Michael, Elizabeth (Chris), Maxwell, Gabriel, Vincent (Trish), Victor (fiancé Pina); great grandchildren Austin, Emma, and Mason. She is also survived by sisters: Frances (Thomas) Hull of Binghamton NY, Marlene (Steven) Truex of Syracuse NY, Nancy Jean Fox of Ravena NY; brother Richard (Susan) Fox of Port Dickinson NY; many nieces and nephews, and by her dear Aunt Jeanne Ruffo, Chenango Bridge NY. She is also survived by sister-in-law Ann (Bob) Woods of Lynchburg PA. Marcia graduated from Binghamton North High School and went on to enjoy jobs in retail beginning with Montgomery Wards in Binghamton, then with K-Mart and Burt’s Department Store in Endicott. She excelled at homemaking – loving to care for babies and in the care and nurture of her children. Spare time found her doing fine crafts such as painting ceramics (many were gifts for others), crocheting beautiful afghans and throws – gifts for her family, friends and Hilltop Nursing Home residents. She had a great memory of family history and began recording our genealogy; a passion which continues with her son Steve. A Funeral Mass will be celebrated on Wednesday January 10th at 11 AM at Our Lady of Good Counsel Church, 701 West Main St., Endicott NY. Entombment will be in Calvary Cemetery, Johnson City NY. The family will receive friends at Church from 10 AM until Mass time at 11 AM. Expressions of sympathy in her memory may be made in the form of donations to the Sam Cohn Foundation at www.samstones.org.

 

Published in Binghamton Press & Sun-Bulletin from Jan. 8 to Jan. 9, 2018

There was one  twist when it came out. After several back and forths with he funeral home and the newspaper, we got a clean copy we liked…   When it came out in the paper today there were 7 question marks spread through the text eg .. it said 

Marcia Lou Fox Mariano, 81, has passed away peacefully on January 4, 2018 at her home in Endicott, New York?? …

Joe called the paper and got it changed and it will run again tomorrow. I’d like to think Marcia would think that was pretty funny, 

Gabe comes in tomorrow.. and we’ll all be together.. .. almost

nite all, nite sam

-me